Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Friday, March 27, 2015

THE POWER OF BEING A FRIEND





One day, when I was a freshman in high school,   I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school.   His name was Kyle.  It looked like he was carrying all of his books.  
   
I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.'  
   
I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him...  

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.  
As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks.' They really should get lives. ' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!'  There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.  
   
I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now.  I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.  
   
We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends. He said yes.  
   
We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.  
   
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.  
   
I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are going to really build some serious muscles with this pile of books every day! He just laughed and handed me half the books.  

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends.  

When we were seniors we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never
be a problem.  He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship.  
   
Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd.  
   
He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak.  
   
Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous! Today was one of those days.  
   
I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!'  He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled.... ' Thanks,' he said.  
   

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began...  'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends....  
   
I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story.'  
   
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the first day we met.  
   
He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. 'Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.'  

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.  
   
I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.  

Not until that moment did I realize its depth.  

Never underestimate the power of your actions.  With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse. God puts us all in each other’s lives to impact one another in some way.  

Look for God in others.  

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Survival Run

I have shown this video hundreds of times to groups. The YouTube link gives you the first three minutes of a 12 minute video, but that is enough to give you the idea of the situation.


This masterfully executed film features blind marathon runner, Harry Cordellos, who runs the difficult Dipsea course through the majestic country near San Francisco guided only by the voice and arm of his sighted partner. Beautifully photographed, Survival Run is an inspiring study of courage, trust and determination. It is an unforgettable study of a highly motivated team that overcomes seemingly insurmountable limitations and risks to achieve their goal.

It is a great exercise to spend a little time thinking of yourself as each of these people and the challenges we get into throughout our lives.

1. In what ways are we like the sighted man? Who are we assisting? In what way do we give directions? Do we seek feedback? Do we take things for granted?

2. In what ways are we like the blind man? What assumptions about our sighted guide are we making? Are those assumptions true? Have we asked the necessary questions? Have we talked about trust? Is there danger ahead? In what ways do we communicate?

The video is also a great tool for teams. How do teams depend on each other?

Also for married couples. In what ways are we each of the two characters?

I have a good friend who is a school teacher and each year for many years she has borrowed the video to show her class and have a very rich discussion about some of the questions above.

I challenge you to find someone to watch the video with you and talk about your communication with others.

There are also many spiritual connections you can make.

BTW: You cannot get this from Netflix. It is a commercial training video and will cost you $250, but you can get it at a significant discount for educational purposes or home use. For more information, click HERE.

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Wednesday, January 7, 2015

The Train of Life



At birth we boarded the train and met our parents, and we believe they will always travel on our side.  However, at some station our parents will step down from the train, leaving us on this journey alone. As time goes by, other people will board the train, and they will be significant like our siblings, friends, children, and even the love of your life. Many will step down and leave a permanent vacuum. Others will go so unnoticed that we don't realize they vacated their seats. This train ride will be full of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells. Success consists of having a good relationship with all passengers requiring that we give the best of ourselves. 

wish you a joyful journey on the train of life. Reap success and give lots of love. More importantly, thank God for the journey.

The mystery to everyone is:  We do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. So, we must live in the best way, love, forgive, and offer the best of who we are. It is important to do this because when the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who will continue to travel on the train of life.

Lastly, Thank You for being one of the passengers on my train.

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